While oral sex is a very common sexual practice today and highly appreciated by men, it remains something that can be difficult to perform. Although it may seem simple, oral sex is actually an art that not everyone masters equally. If you think there is a single "right" technique, you may be disappointed, as, like all sexual practices, there is no magic formula. However, there are certain things you should avoid. So, if you want to know how to give a great blowjob, keep reading.
Enjoying it and wanting to do it are essential. Since oral sex is typically an active practice, there’s no point in doing it without the desire to do it well. Good hygiene greatly enhances pleasure, and trimming or shaving some hair can improve comfort.
Positioning is crucial, both for the sensations and for the psychological aspect of the act.
If the woman is on her knees or crouched in front of the man, a sense of submission may come into play, which could either appeal to or deter the participants.
You can opt for a lying-down position where the woman remains at a distance, at a 90-degree angle, allowing for fingering or the use of a sex toy.
Don’t forget that both partners can experience great pleasure by engaging in 69 and performing cunnilingus simultaneously.
Man on top: When the man is lying on top of the person giving oral sex, he primarily controls the movements. This can make oral sex much rougher. The fact that the man controls the movement (for example, by holding the head) is a common practice in porn and BDSM, often referred to as face-fucking.
Don’t neglect the testicles... You can hold them to warm them up, caress them, or even take them into your mouth. Experiment to see what feels good for both of you.
Attempting a blowjob with a dry mouth won’t be enjoyable. A good blowjob should be wet and slide smoothly.
Using one hand, you can apply varying pressure on the penis or its base, masturbating it either simultaneously or alternately. You can also lick the area between the glans and the shaft.
Without necessarily going for deep throat (which many find unpleasant), you can vary how deep you take it into your mouth and how much pressure you apply with your tongue. Changing things up can create highly pleasurable sensations.
Let yourself be guided by your partner. Pay attention to what he says or how he moves. You will often get valuable feedback on what works and what he enjoys.
Start slowly and gradually increase the speed and suction. Increase the pressure in response to your partner’s arousal. Try to maintain a steady pace without stopping or slowing down. You can switch things up, but keeping a consistent rhythm is crucial, especially leading up to orgasm. When the climax is approaching, maintaining the rhythm is essential, or you risk ruining all your effort. If you want to finish in your mouth or swallow, no problem—otherwise, continue masturbating without interruption.
A good blowjob takes time—don’t expect to finish in just three minutes. Be patient and save your energy for the long run. To enhance excitement, feel free to make little noises or even try some dirty talk.
Contact with teeth or any hard surface (such as braces) on the penis is unpleasant. Try to avoid this by covering your teeth with your lips.
It’s degrading: Some people see oral sex as a submissive act. You are free to think whatever you want, but it’s actually one of the sexual practices where you have the most control. Submission may come into play if your partner holds your head or moves in a way that bothers you. If that happens and you don’t like it, talk about it.
Fear of doing it wrong: Be mindful of your teeth and just go for it. Clearly, performing oral sex well isn’t something instinctive, but practice makes perfect.
It disgusts me: It’s up to you to decide what you’re comfortable with. If the act bothers you but you still want to try, ask your partner to shower and trim beforehand. That might make it easier for you.
I don’t enjoy it: Again, it’s a personal choice. If you don’t really like it and pleasing your partner isn’t enough motivation for you, try incorporating a 69 into the experience.
It is a common practice in the porn industry where the penis is inserted as deeply as possible into the partner’s mouth or throat. It is not a natural act and requires training.
Unprotected oral sex, like unprotected cunnilingus, carries the risk of transmitting STDs, and these risks increase if it ends with ejaculation in the mouth or on the face. It’s important to take the necessary precautions to fully enjoy this pleasurable act safely.
