There are things you should avoid during sex, and some of them may seem strange. For this reason, we have put together a summary of things not to do or things to approach with caution during intimacy. The following advice applies equally to men and women.
While it’s perfectly healthy to avoid doing things you dislike, denying yourself things you enjoy out of fear of being judged is a mistake. You don’t have to give in to all your desires on the first date, but after some time, be yourself and embrace your needs and desires. Without this, you will never have a fulfilling sex life and may end up with regrets.
Even if you want to boost his ego or finish quickly, faking an orgasm is a bad habit. If you don’t feel like orgasming and are having sex just to please your partner, let them know they should enjoy it, but you’re not aiming for climax. If you do want to orgasm and don’t think they can get you there alone, masturbate or use a vibrator during sex. Making a woman orgasm isn’t always easy, so help him help you.
Words have a powerful erotic effect, but they must be chosen wisely, said in the right way, and at the right time to avoid turning your partner off. Even men sometimes need time to get into the mood... Dirty talk is something that should be used with tact.
Taking care of your partner is great, but don’t forget to seek your own pleasure too. Ladies and gentlemen, don’t neglect yourselves—enjoy the moment! Most partners appreciate shared pleasure.
However, it’s also important to understand what gives your partner pleasure. Ask them or explore to find out what they like.
A quickie can be very enjoyable, even for women, but foreplay should still be a regular part of sex. Women take longer to become aroused than men, so gentlemen, if you enjoy a good blowjob, remember that we also like to be taken care of. Warm us up properly, and it’ll be even better for you!
Everyone should be able to express what they want and enjoy sex according to their own desires. Don’t be too controlling, but also don’t stay silent about what you like. Your partner can’t read your mind if you don’t help them.
It may sound silly, but it’s a bad idea—especially if you actually feel like having sex. Sex should not be used as a bargaining tool in a relationship, especially if you don’t want your partner to look elsewhere.
People change, and so do desires. Don’t be afraid of change—allow yourself to be surprised by new experiences. There’s no need to always do things the same way, even if you have your favorite habits.
If you always wait for your partner to make the first move, and if you also playfully refuse sex too often, it might be fun at first, but it can quickly become a problem. All men appreciate it when their partner takes the lead sometimes.
Gentlemen, please—just because we’re in doggy style with our butt up in the air doesn’t mean you have the right to slip a finger in. Sometimes we like it, sometimes we don’t, but I think it’s the same for you. I haven’t met many men in my life who enjoyed me slipping a finger in without warning. And let’s not even talk about "slapping with the penis"—you may laugh about it with your friends, but I’ve never met a woman who said she actually enjoyed it.
And there you have it, a small but useful guide that I hope will improve your sex life. Have fun and, most importantly, enjoy yourselves.
